Should I Share or Should I Not

A fb post that I read today asked: 

"Do you think there are some parts of your Trans experience that you just shouldn’t share with a large number of people?"

My immediate reaction was to like those comments answering "no" because they felt for various reasons sharing could be beneficial to others.

Some others were commenting with a "yes" response because they felt they are like cis women and to avoid the usual serious issues that include bullying, physical harm, fitting in avoiding discrimination, prefer to not share themselves as Trans to no one other than their doctors, friends and family who knew them before they transitioned. 

Aside from siding with the "no" group, I find myself thinking about the validity of both responses.

I am an evolutionist, but also someone who believes in transparency and being truthful.

I learned this from my upbringing, my father was and still is always very verbal about the importance of intellectual and factual honesty even if he has always cautioned that some things are better left unsaid. Luckily, I have surrounded myself with genuine and honest people. I have to thank my friend Phil, from New York, who actually offered me a clearer path to being truthful and transparent with myself and with others.

I truly believe sharing truthfully all is important, it gives others a fuller view, more data to work with and from. The more we open ourselves and tell the entire story the more we can discuss, argue, analyze and ultimately learn from each other.

I wouldn't be keeping this blog open for the world to read if I didn't believe this.

There is also the evolutionary part to the original question that validates in part the "yes" people. Transition in its advanced stages, and probably for the more "genetically blessed" Trans folks, allows to live our truth more quietly because there might not be the same initial scrutiny faced by early transitioning and the less blessed Trans people.

At this stage of my life I am proud to be different, I am proud and accepting of being Trans and if I am so openly supportive of equality, inclusion, diversity and visibility I do not want to hide who I am. I want to be acknowledged for my uniqueness even if it is with just the extra label which I believe does not preclude me from being a woman, it enhances it.